Words matter: on Donald Trump and women

Tuesday, 18 October 2016

Unless you've lived under a rock for the past few months, you've probably heard about the US presidential election campaign that is currently, er, heated (I thought UK politics were brutal! Blimey).

Everyone in the world seems to have a pretty strong opinion on both Clinton and Trump, and the extremity of feeling on either side is quite something to behold. Today, though, I'm going to focus on the thing that most people have been focusing on recently: Trump's hideous comments about women.

Leaving allegations of sexual assault/court cases aside (as they are, for the moment, only allegations), and also laying aside the many other offensive things that he has said, I just want to focus on some of the things that have been said, about women, by Trump.

Words like these:

"You know, it doesn't really matter what [they] write as long as you've got a young and beautiful piece of ass."

“It must be a pretty picture. You dropping to your knee."

"You could see there was blood coming out of her eyes. Blood coming out of her wherever."

"Look at that face. Would anyone vote for that?
"Can you imagine that, the face of our next next president? I mean, she's a woman, and I'm not supposed to say bad things, but really, folks, come on. Are we serious?"

And the clincher (warning: strong language coming up here!)

“I moved on her like a bitch, but I couldn’t get there. And she was married.”
“I did try and fuck her. She was married.”
“Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything.”
“Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.”

(Source for these quotes here and here).

Now: I feel uncomfortable listing these here (and they're far from everything he's said), because I don't like singling people out for attack. Frankly, the thought of this man being the next president of the United States genuinely scares me, but then again, it's not my decision to make.

If you allow a person who has little to no respect for half of the population to run a country ... well. I dread to think.

But, that's besides the point.

Trump's words speak a bigger picture: a huge disrespect towards women, and the massive problem we STILL, to this day, grapple with - the blatant objectifying of girls. It heartens me to see so many people speaking out against Trump's words (and questioning whether he is fit to run for president), and that obviously shows that, to many people, his attitude is not okay.

However there's still a huge amount of supporters out there defending what he said. I can get past the idea that he has matured since then (he was in his fifties when he said some of them, and frankly I find it a bit dubious that he really has changed, but I'm still willing to accept that, even if it's a bit weak), but people are defending him because they genuinely don't think it matters that he said these things.

Some women don't mind this. Some women can laugh and shrug off unwanted remarks and sexual advances, and some women shrug off catcalling as flattering. What's the harm, right? It's just words.

It's not just words, though.

It's an entire culture based around the degredation and humiliation of women, even very young teenagers.

It's an world view based on the idea that men can do whatever they want because they are the stronger sex.

It's an attitude based around women being nothing more than sexual objects to please men.

It is sickening and disgusting and it's STILL rampant, even now.

I haven't forgotten my Faith and Feminism series - it's just been on the back burner recently. I've still got the fire in my belly for it And this whole thing has just reminded me of how important it is to keep talking, to keep holding people to a higher standard of support and encouragement for women.

It is not acceptable to insinuate that an accomplished reporter is on her period because you don't like her line of questioning.

It is not acceptable to condone ANY form of sexual assault (and, yes, Trump, the grabbing of a woman by her genitals definitely does count as sexual assault). It's not acceptable to even joke about it.

It is not acceptable to yell out at an obviously pregnant woman pushing a buggy with a small child the (unrepeatable) things that you'd like to do to her. (Thanks, random catcalling man. It was months ago now and I still remember how vulnerable and angry you made me feel).

Walking with a small child, one of the many scenarios in which it is NOT okay to for a stranger to yell obscene things at me

I want to bang my head against the wall for even having to SAY any of this. It's obvious - isn't it?

But for some people it isn't. So I, and so many other people, will keep speaking out in defence of women again and again and again until the message gets through.

And in the meantime, I'm hoping and praying that this man isn't handed any more power than he already has.

Linking up with:

Diary of an imperfect mum


  1. Thank you for your honest post. Words do matter. #alittlebitofeverything

  2. I am honestly shocked that this man is even being considered as president of the USA. Quite frankly it scares me silly! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

    1. Me too. It seems so unfair to those who don't want to support Clinton either! The whole thing feels like a joke x

  3. Words definitely do matter. I don't want kids growing up thinking it's okay to talk to and about women like Trump does. Not Okay. #ablogginggoodtime

    1. No, exactly. Hoping that by the time my kids grow up these comments will be seen as totally outdated and offensive x

  4. I am so agreed with you.. I still yet to understand why this man has gone this far. I guess is true that money buy anything and anyone. Thanks for sharing with #Alittlebitofeverything.

    1. I guess that's the reason why! I know people are fed up of normal politicians but to support someone like Trump seems drastic and irrational to me! x

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